Let Fear be your biggest motivator
"We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light" Plato
Is fear ruining your life?
One of the ways to overcome your fear is to ask yourself, what am I afraid of? Think about it. You probably heard the saying FEAR means "False Evidence Appearing Real”. There is all kinds and forms of false evidence with an appearance of reality, there is the fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being alone, fear of love, fear of not being good enough… fear of change… What most people don’t realize is that fear is inevitable for success, and if you don’t find ways within you to overcome it you will not grow and then you die.
When fear starts ruining your life and creates the limitations for you to live the life you deserve for you and your family then it is time to move through it with faith because before you know it, you will be missing out on great experiences and opportunities that could make you evolve and be happy.
A young woman, whom I was coaching on self-confidence and self-perception, asked me how to become fearless and stay motivated to reach her goal. I wanted to help her to find the motivation within herself without relying on external factors to follow through. Together we had to create that internal drive for her to stay focused. And one of the ways was to think about the price of not following it through.
YES, let me tell you that you got to be more afraid of what you will be missing out instead. There is no way around. If you cannot get rid of fear, then use it. Instead of focusing on what you are afraid of and let it cripple you, think about the cost of not having what you want. Imagine how would your life be like if you stay as you are and do not change anything? What would be the cost of not creating more freedom to your life, to your family and children? And believe me these thoughts and that kind of fear will get you over your other fears and will push you through to take necessary actions.
Another way to move through your fears is to imagine yourself at 80 years old, looking back to your life and saying to yourself, I wish I did that or I wish I had more courage… I wish I have another chance. Life is passing by my friend, it is time to do the first step.
Here are 3 things to get you going:
- Get clear why anything you want is a must for you, move from the desire situation to a must situation. It has to be something that you feel hungry for or you won’t be inspired.
- Create different rituals that you incorporate daily to put yourself in a peak state because when you are in a peak state, you are physically stronger, have more energy and are more focused.
- Believe that you have a real potential to create the results you need, if you don’t believe that about yourself then you will not be driven enough. Little belief equals little action which leads to little result. Tap on your potential to be able to take massive actions, feel stronger and get the momentum you need.
Every successful endeavor is preceded by a form of fear, take a leap of faith and feel the fear but do it anyway. Fear could be your greatest motivator if you manage it properly. You don’t have to hit rock bottom to start taking actions, start now as with progress your fear will diminish.
If you are letting fear ruin your life, and if you want to be inspired to succeed I invite you to hire a coach who can help you discover how you can use fear instead of letting it use you
To your happiness
Linda Chaccour is a passionate Life Strategist and Happiness Coach, a Certified Youth, Parent and Family Coach, and the founder of Emerge Coaching in UAE and in Lebanon. A graduate of the NeuroLeadership Group, the World Coach Institute, and the Robbins-Madanes Training school (RMT), Linda has had the honor of being trained by the International Coach Federation and the motivational guru and success coach, Anthony Robbins.